So I've adopted, "Bless a thing and it will bless you, curse a thing and it will curse you," as a spiritual tool I remind myself of constantly. When applied, it never fails to work. Even if you find yourself in a very uncomfortable situation you have the power change it by simply changing the way you are thinking about it. No matter what the difficulty seems to be, the truth is; "It's only a thought, and a thought can be changed." - Louise Hay.
Several years ago I was told by my manager that I was going to be assigned another TV production facility to supervise. He warned me about what I had already known, that this place had been a hornet's nest for years and it was probably gonna be tough long before it gets easy. There was a manager there, that for some reason unbeknownst to me didn't like me. This became very apparent when one of my newly assigned direct reports confided in me that I better watch my back. He went on to explain that she told everyone there that if Darrell Fusaro so much as peeps anything that can even misconstrued as harassment, "I'm going to make sure he goes down."
Immediately upon hearing this my feelings ran the gamut from worry, panic, anger, self-pity, and finally surrender. I knew deep down that no amount of self-will could manipulate the situation in my favor to either win her over or eradicate her swiftly and effectively with little or no consequences to myself. So I put all my faith in the power of love. "Bless a thing and it will bless you, curse a thing and it will curse you," was my guide. In spite of dreading having to interact with her each day, I began to apply this practice; everyday when thoughts of fear, worry and/or anger came up I would sweep them aside by blessing the situation. I'd send off thoughts of love, happiness and success for her as prayers. I'd wish for her every good thing that I'd want for myself. Some days this came easy others not so much. For instance there was one time I pulled into the lot and noticed that her car was parked in the handicapped space, it took every once of good will power to not call to have her ticketed and towed. Instead, I blessed her and let it go.
Soon, with no coercion on my part, things began to improve. We began to talk. She would initiate pleasant conversations with myself and crew. Being a long time Los Angeles resident she would suggest fun outings for my wife, Lori, and myself to go on during the weekends. One of my crazy habits at the studio was to break into short songs at unexpected moments, something she detested. But not anymore. Now she'd pick up where I left off, singing out loud the next verse. I began to look forward to seeing her each day. Things had improved so much that those who had witnessed the situation prior were wondering if I was putting something in her coffee. Incredibly the positive power of prayer had worked it's incredible magic. Love truly is the most powerful and effective force in the world. And it works even better than a magic crayon!
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